Stay Calm, Let Them Scream

Ever had someone dump their bad mood on you like it’s your fault? They’re all fire and fury, and you’re just standing there, wondering if you should fire back or keep your cool. Here’s a pro tip: Stay calm. It’s the best response, and I’m about to tell you why.

Imagine you’re standing in front of a roaring campfire. You can throw more logs (aka your own anger) and make it worse, or you can stand back and let the fire die out. The latter? That’s how you handle anger. When someone’s projecting all their rage onto you, don’t match their energy. Responding with calmness is like showing up to a knife fight with a pillow. It’s impossible to fight that.

But why does it work? Well, anger needs a reaction to keep burning. When you don’t give it one, it fizzles out faster than you can say "deep breath." They start to realize their rant is just a solo performance, and guess what? It’s awkward. And awkward means it’s over.

And here’s the twist: calmness isn’t about being a doormat. It’s actually a power move. By staying cool, you’re putting yourself in the driver’s seat. The other person? They’re stuck in the passenger seat, holding onto their road rage with nowhere to go.

So, next time you find yourself in the crossfire of someone’s bad mood, remember this: you’re not there to match their anger. You’re there to remind them that your peace is non-negotiable. They might scream, but you? You just stay cool.

Takeaway: Keep your cool, let their fire burn out. You’ll be the one left standing, calm and unshaken.


Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

When Life Turns Into a Roast Session (But You Still Clap Back)

  There comes a phase in life when it feels like the universe is hosting an open mic night and the only act on stage is… you, while everyone else is the audience, booing and throwing tomatoes. Every word you hear is criticism. Every move you make feels like it comes with a “could’ve done better.” And suddenly, you’re convinced that even if you found the cure for Monday blues, someone would still say, “Hmm, but why not Friday blues too?” I found myself in exactly that season  where nobody seemed to have a kind word, where I was never anyone’s first choice, and where the loneliness was loud enough to drown out Spotify. I was trying  really trying  but somehow “trying” felt invisible. And the worst part? That whisper in my head that said, “Maybe they’re right. Maybe it’s me.” It’s a strange emotional cocktail: one sip of self-blame, one shot of exhaustion, topped with a fizzy splash of “why me?” Served on the rocks, naturally. But here’s the twist: even in this me...
Read more

Sorry, I Have Feelings Too – Not Sorry!

You ever have one of those days where you’re just done? Like, “please, nobody ask me for anything unless it’s chocolate or silence” level of done? Emotional drainage is real, folks. Not the cute kind like "aww I’m tired because I cared too much"—no. The “I feel like my soul just filed for resignation” kind. Now, here’s the plot twist: you’re expected to show up. Always. Show up, smile, nod, listen, support, carry the emotional weight of the nation, and when you—just ONCE—dare to say, “Hey, I’m not okay,” what do you get? “Oh, so now you’re making it about you?” Excuse me, what? Since when did me talking about my feelings become an act of rebellion? The Emotional ATM Syndrome Let’s talk about Emotional ATM Syndrome. You’re the Emotional ATM—people come, swipe their card of crisis, withdraw empathy, and leave. But the moment your machine needs maintenance, oh boy. Alarms go off. “I didn’t expect this from you.” “You’re not the same anymore.” “You’ve changed.” Well, yes. I’ve ch...
Read more

Brb Spiraling… Back in 10” – The New Age Adulting Hack

You know how phones have that little “low battery” warning? Adults have that too. Except ours looks like: Eating cereal at 2AM standing by the sink, Crying over a text that wasn’t even that mean, Or full-on spiraling over whether we’ve peaked in life at 23. Welcome to adulthood. We don’t cope, we spiral — briefly, dramatically, and efficiently. Then we go back to our Teams meetings like nothing happened. It’s not a breakdown, it’s a scheduled maintenance. 💫 The 10-Minute Spiral Protocol Step 1: Have one minor inconvenience. Like… missing a bus. Or your fav cafe running out of oat milk. Or someone texting “k.” That’s enough. Step 2: Go full chaos mode. Cue the “What am I doing with my life?” inner monologue. Spiral about your career, relationships, that embarrassing thing you said in 2015, and the existential dread of time passing. Bonus points if it’s all done in the shower. Step 3: Reboot. Wash your face. Drink water. Put on a cute outfit or throw on a hoodie and preten...
Read more